HONOURING THE HOPED-FOR BABIES AND LITTLE ONES GONE TOO SOON
Infertility, miscarriage, stillbirth, and early infant death are lonely journeys for many individuals and families. Joy has turned to despair and what should have been new life has been replaced with the emptiness of loss. While only you can walk your unique path of grief, you are not alone.
Everyone has a sacred story that deserves to be heard. Sometimes it is difficult to find a willing ear or to share a story of reproductive loss with someone who hasn't walked that journey. I would be honoured to meet with you and hear your story.
While I am familiar with the terrain of grief, I am not a licensed grief counsellor. I offer care as a minister in these settings.
The intangible nature of reproductive loss makes it a complicated grief. It can be difficult to know how to honour the loss when there are few memories and only dashed hopes and dreams. Finding a way to make a mark can be helpful in the grief process as a way of acknowledging that the loss is real, and all the love that was poured into nurturing the baby or hoped-for child was important. Some families choose to honour their loss through a ritual, service, or blessing by drawing from the resources of their faith tradition or creating something that is meaningful to them. As a minister I am open to discussing options with you and officiating a service if desired.
This may include:
a private or public gathering
naming and blessing the child
prayers of healing and comfort
memorial rituals such as tree planting, balloon release, etc.
Even if your loss happened months or decades ago, it is never too late to make a mark.
Note that hourly fees are waived for these services. Honourariums are gratefully received.